Should you post photos of your child on social media? Two parents explain their decision (2025)

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Who's to blame for kids being fed to AI?

On some level, it makes sense that no-one wants to take responsibility for something this nightmarish.

Photos of Australian children have been discovered in a gargantuan dataset that's used to train AI image generators – without the kids' or their parents' consent.

As the ABC reported on Wednesday, the families had no idea, the AI can't forget what it's learnt, and there's a small but real risk it will reproduce those kids' faces by mistake.

Many images were scraped from hard-to-find places that people might have thought were private, such as personal blogs and school websites, or locations that were not readily searchable via a browser.

It's worth considering where responsibility lies.

To start with, the Human Rights Watch researcher who found the images pointed the finger at the German non-profit LAION, which created the dataset of 5.85 billion image links called LAION-5B.

In its defence, LAION told the ABC its dataset is "just a collection of links … available on [the] public internet".

A spokesperson said that "the most effective way to increase safety is to remove private children's information from [the] public internet".

In effect, they are shifting the responsibility to parents and carers.

It lands us on a topic more divisive than wheels vs doors and that cursed dress put together: To Post Or Not To Post, when it comes to the kids in your life?

Sydneysider Bec Foley, a single mother to 10-year-old Delilah, is in the first camp.

"I'm very conscious of the warnings, but there's a part of me that's so unbelievably proud of my daughter," she said.

"I want to be able to post photos of her at the beach, or nailing a gymnastics vault routine.

"I just hate that the onus is on the parents and not other sources … grabbing those images or those videos.

"The reality is we all live digitally, right?"

In the other camp, Brisbane cinematographer Rhys Jones has a concrete rule around not sharing images of his four-month-old son, Alby.

"I don't think a lot of people are actually considering what they're doing when they're posting photos online," he said.

"Basically you are, in a way, handing over your IP to the people that control the servers," he said, although he reserves his judgement on parents who behave otherwise.

"It's a parenting issue that no generation before has had to confront."

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It's true of course that people caring for children could always avoid publishing their image or information anywhere on the "open internet", which by the way, is more places than you might think.

But if a kid's data does find its way there, deliberately or otherwise, should it be fair game for web crawlers, companies like LAION, and AI labs?

Privacy regulators don't think so. Australia's own regulator has said, "personal information that is publicly accessible is still subject to … privacy laws in most jurisdictions".

Or to borrow a metaphor from former Human Rights Commissioner Edward Santow, imagine your friend leaves her wallet on the table in front of you.

"If she isn't clutching her wallet, that doesn't mean that she's saying to the world, 'This isn't mine anymore … take all my money'.

"It's the same online."

In truth, the entire AI supply chain bears responsibility for violations like these, but parents deserve less blame and more help than they're getting.

"As a parent, I want to know that it's not just me trying to keep my child safe online," Bec Foley said.

The federal government is expected to reveal proposed changes to the Privacy Act in August.

What if we could sell access to our own data?

Make sure you're sitting down for this, but one novel idea being thrown around is actually compensating people for the use of their data.

Professor Simon Lucey from the University of Adelaide describes an incentive model in which people are paid and consent is clear.

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"At the moment, I'd liken generative AI to Napster … data has been illegally taken in [and] no-one's getting any rights," he said.

But what if the data market was more of a Spotify model?

"You can create an economic model to actually encourage people to voluntarily share their data and have ownership of their data," Professor Lucey said.

"That's a future that I'd like to see … for people to feel comfortable with how the technology is being used."

'The clock is ticking' for new rules to protect children from porn

It was a small yet significant moment this week when Australia's eSafety commissioner, Julie Inman Grant, gave tech companies six months to come up with new rules for protecting children from "high-impact content", including porn.

Brace yourself, because what comes next is quite a nerdy level of detail, but I mention it because it has everything to do with some massive policy debates right now — for example, the push to ban under 16s from social media.

Ms Inman Grant writing to the tech industry might not seem like much, but it means we are now entering "phase two" (the porn phase) of the "codes process" (a long slow email negotiation between the entire industry and the industry's cop, in which they come up with some ground rules).

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Basically, the wheels are now moving to give the commissioner new powers to fine companies that don't do enough to protect children from porn.

It's a step that will extend her regulatory reach beyond pro-terror and child sexual abuse content (aka, "phase one").

The industry is working on draft codes now, but it won't have the final say.

"If any code should fall short … I have the power to set the rules for them," the commissioner said.

We'll check in again in six months, by which time the tech landscape probably won't have changed at all. (Right??)

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And if it's all too much…

Then meet the people on r/CharacterAI who are obsessed with their chatbots.

For the uninitiated, Character.ai is one of the most popular apps in the world.

The platform is known for its countless bots, each with distinct personalities.

To be clear, this is just the Subreddit where you'll find its superfans, not the platform itself, but they're at least as much of a spectacle as the AI itself.

Recommendations and tips are always welcome. You can reach me securely via Proton Mail.

Should you post photos of your child on social media? Two parents explain their decision (2025)

FAQs

Should I post photos of my child on social media? ›

Constantly posting about your kids online can put their data and privacy at risk Oversharing can make children vulnerable to identity theft, harassment and predators. To protect their privacy, share a 'holiday card-or-less' amount of data online, says expert Leah Plunkett.

Can someone post your child on social media without your consent? ›

Unless the photos are of an illegal nature (child pornography), it is perfectly legal for someone to post photos of another person's children without their consent.

Can I stop someone from posting pictures of my child on social media? ›

An injunction is a court order to stop doing something. So, you can file for an injunction in court regarding her posting pictures of your children. This is more difficult and costly than Small Claims, so you would want an attorney's assistance.

Is it an invasion of privacy for parents to post photographs of their children on social media? ›

All of this suggests that online photo sharing has inherent privacy issues between children and parents. Babies, by virtue of their limited communication skills, are incapable of giving informed consent to online photo sharing.

What is sharenting syndrome? ›

Sharenting refers to the practice of parents oversharing sensitive information about their children online. Sharenting can cause rifts in the parent-child relationship. Sharenting can lead to unhealthy comparison and insecurity among children.

Should parents ask before posting pictures? ›

Consider asking children for permission before you post

Even if you post about your daughter's orchestra recital because you're proud of her, your child may feel self-conscious or embarrassed. That's not necessarily a bad sign.

What to do if someone posts a picture of your child on Facebook? ›

Report a photo or video that violates the privacy of your child. If your child is under 13: If you'd like to request the removal of an image of your child aged under 13, please fill out this form.

How do you tell people not to post your child on social media? ›

Wilkey Oh suggested saying something like, “We've decided to not share photos of our child on social media, and we're asking friends and family to do the same.” You can take the focus and pressure off others by using an “I” statement.

Can you post photos on social media without consent? ›

If someone uses a photo of you without your consent, they may be infringing your copyright or breaching the ACL. You should first attempt to resolve the issue by contacting the infringing party. If that does not work, you can lodge a formal complaint or send them a cease and desist letter.

Can you report someone for posting pictures of your child on Instagram? ›

To report an account that has shared photos of your child without your permission, fill out this contact form. Note that you don't need to have an Instagram account to complete the form but do need to provide a link to the photo or video you're reporting.

Can I stop my ex from posting pictures of your child on social media? ›

You can simply ask your ex to stop, but they may have no legal duty to do so. Even if your ex agrees to stop, it may be wise to file for custody and include language in your custody order that prohibits anyone from posting photos of your child without your express permission.

What are the child privacy laws for social media? ›

IS 13 THE MAGIC AGE FOR SOCIAL MEDIA? There's already, technically, a rule that prohibits kids under 13 from using platforms that advertise to them without parental consent: The Children's Online Privacy Protection Act that went into effect in 2000 — before today's teenagers were even born.

Why shouldn't you post your kid on social media? ›

In addition to the physical dangers inherent in sharing this kind of personal data with the world, posting photos of your child could increase your child's risk of identity theft and “digital kidnapping.” Digital kidnapping is a form of identity theft wherein people steal images of a child, then pretend that child is ...

Can you post a picture of a child on social media? ›

Firstly, you need to consider permission. If your child is old enough to have an opinion then you should seek it. If they don't want their photo posted online then you should respect this. If they are younger then you need to consider how they may feel about the image in the future.

How many parents post their children on social media? ›

A survey conducted by Security ORG in 2021 found that around 75 per cent of parents shared a picture, story or video of their child online, and more than 80 per cent of parents use their kids' real names on social media posts.

Why not show a child's face on social media? ›

Cybersecurity and Identity Theft: Sharing personal images of children can make them more susceptible to identity theft and fraud. Malicious individuals could collect and manipulate these images, potentially leading to impersonation or unauthorized use of their identities.

Why should you not put your address and birth date on social media? ›

Playing it safe with personally identifiable information: Sharing your phone number, home address, date of birth, and email address can give thieves the information they need to open fraudulent accounts in your name and compromise your identity. This privacy rule not only applies to adults but also children.

Should my child be on social media? ›

Social Media and Kids: Making an Informed Family Decision. Considering safety and privacy, it's not advised that young people under the age of 13 be on social media. In fact, most social platforms require youth to be age 13 or older to sign up.

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